Compromise Yourself By Compensating For Errors

As an intuitive coach, I often pull from my life experiences to help others. Intuitive healing is a process, and in that process, you can learn a lot about compromising yourself by compensating for errors.

To exemplify that, the other day I watched a softball coach teaching a young girl how to bat. One after another he placed balls onto a stand and had her hit them into a net. He gave her instruction and then did it again.

She was pretty good, but had a tendency to hit to the right. She was standing correctly, but I thought, "If she moves just a step to her right, she'd get behind the ball and hit it correctly." Then it occurred to me that she wouldn't be hitting correctly. She'd be hitting the ball where it needed to go, but her stance would be off and she'd be compensating for bad form. Instead the coach showed her how to reach further around the ball so that she'd hit it correctly.

This observation caused me to think, "How often do I compensate for errors in myself, my surroundings, or life instead of correcting the error?" My father used to preach ad infinitum, "If you're going to do it, do it right." I hated hearing that. So often I wanted to cheat. But, it never works out.

For example, it was easy to put a wooden match into the hole in my door jamb and replace the screw. I didn't want to go downstairs and get the wood putty, let it dry, and then screw the jamb in later. I wanted to do it right then. I compensated. Of course, the knob never really worked quite right, and 6 months later the screw was loose and I had to complete the whole task again. Compensating for errors never works - you compromise yourself by not correcting the fault properly.

Another example happened when I noticed some fungus growing in my townhouse grass. It was easier at the time to not make a fuss about it to the Association Board. I didn't want to take the time or look like a complainer. I could justify my noncommittal position by saying," I pay Association dues and I'd rather not have to get involved with this."

A couple months later most of the grass had been killed by the fungus and the Association had to have it dug up and reseeded. Maybe I would have seemed like a complainer at the time, or not. In any case, through compensatory negligence the fungus destroyed the lawn. Once again, compensating for errors. . .

It's also tempting to compensate on personal growth issues. I was upset with something my husband had done last week. I didn't want to discuss it with him, because I thought he would get angry. Rather than face the situation, I was tempted to leave the house and spend the day by myself. I realized that this would be hurting us and depriving us of time together, so I told him in the best way I could about my feelings. And using our communication skills (which we've painstakingly worked on) we were able to work through the issue. We also came to a stronger mutual understanding of not only the issue, but of each other.

Rather than compromising myself by compensating for errors on my or his part, I resolved the problem properly. Compensating - hedging because it feels better at the time - never works. It may seem like the easy way out, but it never is. My Dad was correct. If you're going to do it, do it right. Appropriate action is always the way to go - and is even easiest in the long run.

Next, my Dad's lesson on putting things away… OK, I'll spare you that one for now.


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Intuitive coaching has helped thousands of people and can help you too. Also known as spiritual life coaching, you can learn more at Deborah Hill's website TheAwarenessInitiative.com.